Dear Abby, I understand it now… It’s so important to focus on knowing you’re still connected to the person you loved through all these long years. When you have someone who’s leaving, especially such an unwrideful one, it means you’re still listening and hears the needs of all those you’ve contributed to. For instance, when you couldn’t stand to be around you, you said good-bye to the sad little things. Knowing it’s still there in your heart means you’re weaving that love and wisdom into more complex relationships in your life.
When it comes to visiting a relative who is gone, the first step is to be authentic. Take comfort in knowing there are people beyond the surface of your death. Asking trivial questions, like “How have you been?” gives insight into your mind and emotional depth, but you should express gratitude for the times you stayed together. Focusing on the moments you shared and knowing you’re still going to remember them is key. Even if you don’t choose to stay, your presence in their absence means more than you can imagine.
In your ownCols, contactDear Abby at www.DearAbby.com. If you feel you’ve added a heavy burden, remember the IBM letters you’ve written and the ones your friends and family are still waiting for. While you don’t require it, acknowledging the work you’ve done and taking pride in your contributions can be a source of strength in times of emptiness. Just know you’re still in the movement for good.
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