Kat Stickler and John Mayer: A Subtle Romance Unfolds

Kat Stickler, the 31-year-old social media influencer and comedian, recently dropped a series of breadcrumbs that hint at her budding romance with 48-year-old musician John Mayer. Earlier this month, eagle-eyed fans spotted Stickler wearing Mayer’s official merchandise—specifically his “Life With John Mayer Baby Blue Sweatpants”—in an Instagram Story shared via DeuxMoi’s page on November 28. The subtle nod didn’t stop there; Stickler was photographed lounging on a bed next to a box of donuts, an apparent reference to Mayer’s well-known “Donut Sundays” tradition that he maintains while on tour. These seemingly casual details didn’t slip past fans, who quickly connected the dots between the two celebrities who have been quietly seeing each other for several weeks now.

The romance between Stickler and Mayer reportedly began after the musician took the initiative in pursuing her online. According to an exclusive source who spoke with Us Weekly in mid-October, “John sought her out and pursued her,” following Stickler’s recent breakup from a relationship that had lasted a few months. The timing apparently worked well for Stickler, who “thought it would be fun to date again, and was interested in John.” While their relationship is still in its early stages, the pair have been spotted together multiple times, with the insider noting that Mayer “has been actively pursuing her, inviting her places and texting her often.” For her part, Stickler is described as “interested and seeing where it goes,” though sources suggest she doesn’t expect this to develop into something serious—she’s simply “having fun” with the Grammy-winning musician.

The public first caught wind of their connection when Stickler and Mayer were seen dining together at New York City’s Fly Fish in early October. Since then, the two have continued to spend time in each other’s company, with additional sightings at NYC’s Torrisi on November 1. The following day, Mayer was spotted in Manhattan’s West Village with his longtime friend Andy Cohen and a woman who appeared to be Stickler, as captured in a TikTok video. While neither Stickler nor Mayer has publicly confirmed their relationship status, their repeated appearances together and Stickler’s suggestive merchandise-wearing Instagram post have fueled speculation among fans and followers about the nature of their connection.

For Stickler, this relationship with Mayer follows a period of romantic transitions. In October, she confirmed she had just ended a relationship with someone she had been dating since the summer—a man she had playfully referred to as her “mystery man” on social media. In July, Stickler had teased this relationship with an Instagram video captioned, “Girl whose whole life is online,” while showing herself shaking hands with her then-boyfriend, whose identity she never fully revealed beyond glimpses of his torso. This summer romance had come after her split from Bachelor Nation’s Jason Tartick in October 2024, who himself had entered Stickler’s life following her divorce from Mike Stickler, with whom she shares a daughter named MK. Shortly after being spotted with Mayer in early October, Stickler seemed to confirm her breakup with the mystery man through a humorous social media video about her new bob haircut being a “tell-tale sign of a relationship gone bad,” captioning it, “Chopped the hair, kept the peace.”

Mayer brings his own colorful romantic history to this new relationship. The “Your Body is a Wonderland” singer has had several high-profile romances throughout his career, including relationships with Jessica Simpson and Jennifer Aniston that often made headlines. His most recent public relationship was with pop star Katy Perry, whom he dated on and off from 2012 to 2015. Mayer has been relatively quiet about his love life in recent years, but in 2017, he offered a rare glimpse into his feelings about Perry when he revealed that his song “Still Feel Like Your Man” was written about her. “Who else would I be thinking about?” Mayer told The New York Times at the time, adding, “And by the way, it’s a testament to the fact that I have not dated a lot of people in the last five, six years. That was my only relationship.”

The developing story between Stickler and Mayer represents an interesting intersection of two different public personas—Stickler, a social media personality who has built her brand on sharing aspects of her personal life, and Mayer, a more established celebrity with a complex public image shaped by his music, interviews, and past relationships. While sources suggest Stickler isn’t looking for anything serious, fans remain intrigued by this unexpected pairing. The subtle ways they’ve acknowledged their connection—through merchandise, shared interests like donuts, and appearing together in public—reflect a modern celebrity romance that’s neither entirely private nor explicitly public. As neither has officially confirmed their relationship status, followers of both stars will likely continue piecing together clues about this casual but increasingly visible romance between the influencer and the musician seventeen years her senior.